Radiant Purity Conference

I was looking back over my notes from the Radiant Purity Conference that I attended last year with my mom and younger sister Rachel and I thought I would share my notes with you. The conference was put on by Sarah Mally. She wrote Before You Meet Prince Charming which I highly recommend.

Radiant Purity Conference, 14 August 2009.

There are two kinds of purity: 1. Innocent. 2. Cleansed. Purity starts in the heart and glows outward.

Desire the best marriage and be willing to wait for him.

Dating

Temporary
To get
Human
Set up for divorce

Courtship

Eternal
To give
Spiritual
Set up for marriage

Look for a christian, a strong christian who shows spiritual fruit.

Trust Him no matter what. He is in control and can see the big picture while we can only see a piece. Sometimes when we think something is good or that we should do something right then that may be godly, but not what God wants for us at that time in our life. What God has planned for us is better than we could imagine. A good definition of "my will" is: what God's will is if I knew all of the facts. The Lords will is perfect and we need to be patient and follow his will, no questions asked.

What to do When You Have a Crush

1. Spring board approach.
2. Memorize scripture.
3. Talk to your parents.
4. Exercise faith in trusting the Lord.

The spring board approach simply means that when the person you have a crush on comes to mind you immediately think of something else. For example, when the person comes to mind you immediately start praying for family or friends or whoever God lays on your heart. Or, you start singing a song.

Friendship Principles

1. Keep the friendship casual.
2. Avoid situations that will breed emotional bonds.
3. Ask your parents for specific guidance and guidelines.
4. Do not seek attention for yourself.

Principles of Dress

1. Dress modestly.
2. Do not copy the world.
3. Do not defraud.
4. Dress femininely.
5. Honor your father.
6. Draw attention to your countenance.
7. Remember that you represent the Lord Jesus.

Emotional Purity

Seven Reasons to Send Guys to Your Dad

1. Dad will respect you.
2. You and your dad will be a team.
3. Young man will respect you.
4. Helps to screen guys.
5. Easier for you to say no.
6. Wisdom from dad's perspective.
7. Relationship between dad and young man starting right.

Internet can be a wonderful blessing. You can stay up to date with family quickly, talk to friends that live far away. But it can also lead to sinfulness if you are not careful what you look at and read. Here are some reasons why.

Possible Cautions

1. Opens up to things that are not holy. Psalm 1.
2. Interferes with relationship with parents.
3. Protects "artificial" friendships.
4. Emphasis on having many friends.
5. Sharing emotions prematurely or unwisely.
6. Can become an addiction.
7. Justifying relationships with young men that we normally would not.
8. Creates an area of independence--no accountability.
9. Encourages a split personality.
10. Can lead us to be very "me" focused.
11. Wasting time--one of our most precious resources.

We have to be careful about our use of the internet. We need to set up personal safeguards.